How To Get Divorced and Be Happy With Helen Thorn E34

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October 21, 2022
The topic of discussion during episode 34 on the Women Who Rebrand Podcast is how to get divorced and be happy. Co-hosts Sareta and Dee were joined by Helen Thorn, an award-winning comedian, podcaster and author. She is widely known for her honest and hilarious take on parenthood, being single in her 40s and body positivity. She is a regular on BBC Radio 5 Live and has been featured several times on Woman’s Hour. Together with Ellie Gibson, she is the co-host of one of the most popular parenting podcasts in the UK – Scummy Mummies – and has performed in packed-out theatres around the UK.
Helen is the author of the book Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after. The three divorcees discuss their first-hand experience of going through the emotional process of Divorce, the reasons for having a divorce, dating in your 40s and finding happiness within. Is dating a younger man the key to sexual liberation? We delve deep.

Continue reading and listen to E34 of The Women Who Rebrand Podcast episode if you’d like to know how to get divorced and be happy!

“I was like, f**king, nah! This was a f**king gift, this was meant to happen .”–Helen Thorn

Divorce can be devastating, and the ladies talk openly about finding true happiness and knowing yourself as a way to be whole. Unlearning the negative influences that may have made you feel ‘less than’ is crucial for healing. Did you get into a relationship thinking you weren’t enough and a partner could help you fulfil your desire to feel whole? Or was the idea of marriage and having a family an unrealistic fantasy? Marriage isn’t Disney; it takes work, and whether you’re in a relationship, ending one, or starting again, this episode will ignite your power and confidence to believe in your worth. Set the bar high, ladies; you are worth it.

What do you tell your kids when you’re getting divorced?

Helen describes how she spoke to her two children about getting divorced. Although they didn’t need to know the details, Helen felt it was necessary not to sugarcoat the situation and decided to be honest. Although challenging, the now ex-couple co-parent positively, and Helen senses she has a fantastic new formed, tighter relationship with her children.

Helen’s divorced due to infidelity, and she explains how she had a new lease on life when she started again. She wakes up every morning loving how she looks and feels. “Harnessing life and starting over again was a blessing”, she said. Helen had a sense of lightness, choosing her path every morning. She wishes everyone, regardless of their relationship status, had that energising feeling of self-worth.

Never put up with behaviour from a partner that you wouldn’t expect from a best friend.

What Are Rule The Rules For Divorce In The UK

To be granted a divorce in the UK, a court must be satisfied that a marriage lasting longer than a year has irretrievably broken down to a degree where it cannot be saved.

A legal separation may be a good option if you have been married for less than a year if you need some time to figure out if your marriage is definitively over, or if you have religious reasons not to want to get divorced.

You can still request a divorce/dissolution if you and your spouse/civil partner are living together, but you have to be able to show the court that you were living separately for this time.

If your spouse is contesting the Divorce, you must go through a court hearing to argue your case before obtaining an order of decree nisi. Under previous laws, if a couple had not lived separately for at least 2 years, Divorce was granted only if one party accused the other of breaking up the marriage, and it had to be in a category such as adultery or unreasonable behaviour.

Following years of campaigns to remove the need to ‘blame’ one of the parties seeking Divorce by citing adultery or unreasonable behaviour, the Government has finally responded to calls to reform divorce law.

From 6th April 2022, separating couples no longer had to rely on one of the ‘five facts’ to prove the ground for Divorce.

The Five Facts

Instead, the new law will simply introduce the requirement to provide a statement of irretrievable breakdown. Joint applications will become possible (although applicants can still submit a sole application if their partner does not agree to the Divorce).

The ability to contest a divorce, dissolution or separation will be removed. The language will be updated and in plain English. For example, ‘Decree Nisi’ will become a ‘Conditional Order’; ‘Decree Absolute’ will become a ‘Final Order’ and ‘Petitioner’ will become ‘Applicant’.

A new minimum period of 20 weeks from the start of proceedings to when the Conditional Order can be made will be introduced. It is intended to be a period of reflection for both parties to consider whether they truly want to separate.

The 6-week period between the Conditional Order and when the Final Order can be made will remain. Whilst it is still likely to take around 6 months before you can apply for a final divorce order, the proposed changes should simplify current practices and reduce conflict between couples allowing them to focus on issues such as children, property and finances.

The new law removes the need to ‘blame’ one party and will encourage a more constructive approach to separation, promoting reconciliation and reflection where possible but ultimately trusting the judgment of the couple involved.

The stress and expense of potentially contested divorce proceedings will be avoided by removing the requirement for consent, admission of adultery or a level of unreasonableness.

There will be no minimum period of separation required if, at present, the parties seek to avoid attributing blame.

 

Where To Find Helen

Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after, by Helen Thorn.

“Like a best mate in a book to guide you through hell – and out the other side via belly laughs, firefighters and finding joy in a new way of living” ― Helen Russell.

Helen is on Instagram, and you can find out more about her adventures with Ellie Gibson and the comedy duo, Scummy Mummies.

Can Couples Counselling Save A Marriage?

If you’re thinking about couples counselling or contemplating Divorce, contact Relate. They are the first source of help when people face significant crises in their relationships, like divorce or separation, affairs or major conflict.

Relate is also here for worries that might seem trivial or minor. Even if things are going perfectly for you, we can help keep things that way.

They can help you find the best support for you and at a time to fit in with your life.

Written by #WWR

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